when you express anger at someone for being who they are, you are trying to rush their process. i do it all the time to the people closest to me. my eldest daughter and i had a discussion about my eldest son's gayness. i am amazed at how many people think that approving or disapproving someones gender issues will make them change, reconsider and has anything to do with anyone other than the gender challenged person.
our conversation went something like this: well i don't approve of his wearing cross dressing. i'd have to get used to that.
well whether you approve of it or not, he cross dresses.
well, it kind of creeps me out.
it may creep you out, but the fact is you have a gay brother who cross dresses. can't you just support him for what he's dealing with? how come you can support your gay guy friends and not your brother?
we were never that close.
a volcanic explesion occurred way deep down in myself and i hung up the phone. when she tried to call me back i hung the phone up. on the last call i instructed her not to call me until it was time to come home. i was done.
i remember the day when all she and chibuzor had was each other and God. i remember the days when she would look out for him, like the day we had to call a code adam in walmart when her brother had disappeared from my side (she noticed that he was gone waaaaayyy before i did). i remember the days when she stood up for her brother, not allowing anyone to talk about him or pick on him.
i remember those days.
her brother always finds away to get to her events to support her...come hell or high water.
i didn't think i was asking for much for her to be supportive. but support for her gay brother may be more than she can muster. i'm still a little shaken by her remark. she has a tendency to detach from any situation that she thinks will compromise her welfare in any way. this is one of those situations where she feels that it is necessary to run the other way. emotionally, physically and spiritually.
good luck to her.
i realize that we all come to terms to terms with our own issue in our own time and at our own pace.
we can't rush our own process. it is impossible to try to speed up someone elses.
our conversation went something like this: well i don't approve of his wearing cross dressing. i'd have to get used to that.
well whether you approve of it or not, he cross dresses.
well, it kind of creeps me out.
it may creep you out, but the fact is you have a gay brother who cross dresses. can't you just support him for what he's dealing with? how come you can support your gay guy friends and not your brother?
we were never that close.
a volcanic explesion occurred way deep down in myself and i hung up the phone. when she tried to call me back i hung the phone up. on the last call i instructed her not to call me until it was time to come home. i was done.
i remember the day when all she and chibuzor had was each other and God. i remember the days when she would look out for him, like the day we had to call a code adam in walmart when her brother had disappeared from my side (she noticed that he was gone waaaaayyy before i did). i remember the days when she stood up for her brother, not allowing anyone to talk about him or pick on him.
i remember those days.
her brother always finds away to get to her events to support her...come hell or high water.
i didn't think i was asking for much for her to be supportive. but support for her gay brother may be more than she can muster. i'm still a little shaken by her remark. she has a tendency to detach from any situation that she thinks will compromise her welfare in any way. this is one of those situations where she feels that it is necessary to run the other way. emotionally, physically and spiritually.
good luck to her.
i realize that we all come to terms to terms with our own issue in our own time and at our own pace.
we can't rush our own process. it is impossible to try to speed up someone elses.
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